I keep hearing women tell me that one of the main reasons the man that they love can't/won't be with them exclusively is because they are broke and cannot "afford" a relationship. I know the entire country has fallen on hard times and money is tight, but along with our jobs and unemployment, has the relationship rate gone down as well? Lack of jobs and cash flow has many of us rebuilding, re-strategizing and preparing for the future that is full of uncertainty, but I was always a firm believer that even if you had no job, money or even a pot to piss in, that love could always be present.
Now don't get me wrong, I am well aware that we live in a very materialistic society full of real and wannabe ballers, always flossin' or stuntin' on the next man and competition is definitely thick. But when did money come before love? I remember the old song by Gwen Guthrie Ain't Nothin' Goin' On But The Rent where she so clearly explained that there was "No Romance Without Finance", but I know there are still down to earth women out in there that are looking for true love, not a paycheck.
At the end of the day, money does make life easier, but nothing can ever replace love. So why do men always give the same old excuse that they can't be fully involved with a woman because they're broke? Lines like "I want to give you everything and it hurts my ego that I can't" or "I can't afford to be with someone of your caliber" cause me to shake my head and roll my eyes *sigh* REALLY?
Am I missing something or is this just a crock of ca ca like I think it is? Are men so egotistical and full of pride that they think all they can provide is what is inside their wallets? Do they really think all women care about is money? In this day and age, women are making their own money, buying their own cars and houses and supporting themselves. Granted, no one wants a broke man, but real women are and have always been willing to work with a brotha and help him get on his feet as long as he has potential, drive, ambition and the ability to follow-through. This is what us ladies like to call an investment, and we for sure will reap the benefits in the long run.
I would love to here from the fellas and the ladies on this topic:
Would you break up with your man if he lost his job and could no longer support you?
Have you ever had to support the man you love once he fell on hard times?
Did your girlfriend dump you the day she found out you lost your job?
Are men being genuine when they say they can't date a woman because of their financial situation?
I would love to hear your feedback! WEIGH IN!
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ReplyDeleteIn my experience (because i have been there) a man may think its new-age chivalry to be candid about his financial abilities with a female due to standards set in the near past by women, as to the requirements n " duties" of a modern male.
Relationships, when done right; take a degree of financial abilty on the mans part, if that man feels he's a man of that caliber.
Now u gotta pick a lane or some medium. No woman wants to be inna relationship and the dude doesn't hold his end. No real man wants to be that man that doesnt.
I think if a women encounters this and shes willing to find a medium then thats her opportunity to discuss with him how they can make things work. If a guy wants to be with a woman he'll try it. But so many woman expect alot outta men, with all the influences of music i.e
(Rick Ross:Packed her bags now she live amongst entrepreneurs
Marc Jacob the makeup Gi-Givenchy consumer Gianni Versace connoisseur a carnivore) and Tv (Basketball wives alone)
perceptions are jaded. Standards are somewhere high. Subconsciously or consciously.
As in the real world everyones not inta investing Ms.B2B. Dealing with woman (as a real man..not jo blow faker)it costs. But you can hide ya inability's a bit. Dealing with one woman may cost more or less but u cant hide a thing. Those pressures yes may damage our ego..ergo our sense of being a man. Who wants to do that?
It may be a weird real world dynamic that both men and woman have built up. But its real. Where do we go from here. If u think its "ca ca"?