Why Do Men Have Kids By Women They Don't Like?

Men having children by women they can't stand is no new occurrence or phenomenon.  Sure there are plenty of parents that were in love when they conceived their children, and later, due to unforeseen circumstances, fell out of love.  But what about the men who were never in love with the mothers of their children, yet consistently had unprotected sex with these women, knowing they would not get along in a parenting situation, or even worse, that they would be unfit mothers?  Who is holding these men responsible for planting seeds in women that they knew beyond the shadow of a doubt would make things hard when it came to seeing their child or would use the child as bait to get the things they want from the man?

I will give some the benefit of the doubt in saying that maybe the woman flipped once she found out she was pregnant or that the man didn't want to be with her, but many men knew the temperament and personality of the women they were having unprotected sex with and instead of "pulling out" or even better, wearing a condom, they chose to go all in.  Scratch that, how about choosing not to deal with women whom you have nothing in common with other than sex so things like this don't happen at all?  Does something happen when a man is inside a woman that doesn't allow him to restrain himself from ejaculating in her?  Does the woman's vagina have some sort of timed vice grip that holds the man inside her until he fertilizes her egg? Somebody help me out here.

It may seem like I'm being silly or funny, but I'm dead serious!!!  Why do men continuously impregnate women that they can't stand and have no possibility of having a future with outside of child support cases and birthday parties?  It seems to me if said men took a little time to think past their penis, they would be smarter when dealing with women where signs of negativity are already present.  A child is a lifetime responsibility and I'm sure many men regret that one fatal time where they let the vagina get the best of them.  Men want to be seen as so strong and macho, yet can't fight off a woman that means them no earthly good.  What's the point of having muscles and endurance if you can't fight off a lifetime of heartache and regret?

I think men need to think twice when having sex with ANY WOMAN that they deem is not mother or wifey material.  That way, they can lessen the chances of impregnating a woman that will literally suck the life out of them throughout the duration of their co-parenting of the child.

Men Say They Want A Good Woman, But Chase Bad Girls

I can't tell you how many R&B and Rap songs I've heard where men talk about wanting a "Bad Chick".  Yet, when you sit them down and ask them to evaluate what they really want, they say they want a "Good Woman".  I don't know about you, but it seems to me that some contradictions are going on here.  How can a woman be bad and good at the same time?  Does a woman like this even exist?

Lets first identify what men mean when they use both terms.  How does one describe a "bad bitch"?  What qualities must a woman have to be "bad"?  Well, from my experience, a bad bitch's qualities and value derive mostly from her looks.  She has a flat stomach, big butt, nice thighs and long hair.  Her makeup is always on point, hair and nails did, and she rocks the latest fashions, including status bags (Louis Vuitton, Gucci, etc.) and has a "mean" shoe game.  Yeah, that sounds like a bad bitch to me.  What else can we say about a "bad bitch"? Well, she's independent, has game and knows how to get what she wants.  Yup, that seems about right.

On the contrary, lets take a look at the true meaning behind a "good woman".  A good woman is loyal, respectable, honest, genuine and kind.  She isn't necessarily solely driven by her outer appearance as far as rocking the latest trends or the most expensive "red bottoms" because she is more focused on managing her money properly, pursuing education and/or running her household.  That being said, it doesn't mean that she has to look homely or out of date.  She can still rock the looks that compliment her figure and features and this is what makes her attractive.  Basically, her priorities are straight.  She is a good representation of herself, her man, and her family and she has values and morals that lead her through life with purpose.

If you take a look at both descriptions, they seem to be quite the opposites, however, one man seemingly wants all of these qualities in one woman.  If you ask me, this man who wants his cake and wants to eat it too is misguided and confused.  No wonder there are so many so-called "good men" who can't find a "good woman".  Could it be because his priorities aren't straight or is it that he doesn't even really know what he wants and values or even further, what he needs?

I think to a certain extent music and entertainment have brainwashed many into thinking that the bad bitch is the prize and the ultimate goal of attainment.  The bad bitch is much more of a trophy than the good woman who has the power to add true value to a man's life.  The good woman may not be the baddest, but when did we get so screwed up that the terms "bad" and "good" became the opposite of what they truly represent.

If you ask me, a good balance of both would be optimal, but to find that in a nice pretty package is extremely rare.  So it looks like we are at a standstill; Nudged between what a man wants and what he really needs.  I honestly suggest these men who are stuck in this relationship rut do some real soul searching to determine what they really want/need out of life and further, out of their life partner.  Then maybe, just maybe, we can all meet half way and everyone can be happy with the balance of what they want, need and have.

SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS
Are you a man that declares that you want a "bad bitch"?
Are you attracted to bad bitches yet claim you want a "good woman"?
Are you mainly single because you cant find the perfect woman to fit your wants and needs?
Have you ever thought of reevaluating what you want and need out of a relationship?
Do bad bitches always seem to get you in trouble?
Are good women too boring for your lifestyle?

Why Do Men Marry Bitches?

Every time I watch one my favorite reality shows called "Bridezillas" I sit back and wonder how these crazy women got these men to marry them.  I always thought a man wanted to marry a woman that would let him be the man, support him and his endeavors and give him peace when he is at home.  However, these ladies who seem to capture these men's hearts are everything but the "model wife".  They talk down to their men, suck them dry for money to pay for ridiculous wedding and personal expenses, throw temper tantrums, curse them out, physically and verbally abuse them and pretty much humiliate them on national TV.  Then I thought maybe this occurrence can be chocked up to casting, because believe me, it is definitely worth watching.  But I started looking at some of the married couples I know personally, and although they might not be as extreme as the couples on "Bridezillas" they definitely have that "bitchy" attitude and personality to them.

So what am I missing?  Do the bitches have it right?  Do they know some sort of secret that the rest of us need to catch up on?  Why is it that the women with the worst attitudes and the most drama get the happily ever after?  No wonder they say most married men are miserable, because they keep marrying bitches that make their lives a living hell and then the same men want to cheat and have mistresses that aren't bitches like their wives (don't even let me get started on that). There are even books that give you a step-by-step approach on how to be a bitch and land your husband or make a man fall in love with you. Wow!

I don't know about you, but all of this bitch talk is making me dizzy.  I'd love for you all to weigh in on this!

I would love to hear feedback from the Males:

Did you marry a bitch and why?
If so, do you regret marrying a bitch?
What about a woman being a "bitch" attracts you?

From the Ladies:

Does being a bitch get you what you want?
Are you a reformed bitch?
Did you used to try to be nice, but realized the bitches got all the perks?

Here are some highlights of the shows brides going H.A.M. (Hot Ass Mess) on anyone in a 5 mile radius...ENJOY!

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